Dec 10 2008
Introduction to Marriage Undone
After volunteering as an assistant organizer for the last three years for a divorce/separated support group, I’ve seen a huge variety of reactions to a marriage coming undone. I’ve seen a few – including my own – survive the brink of divorce. And I’ve seen most people move on to a better, happier life—even those who were left versus those doing the leaving. While my second marriage survived what seemed the un-survivable, I am divorced from my first husband and we have successfully co-parented an awesome daughter for over ten years.
I’m looking forward to sharing some of my observations about marriage, about divorce, and about co-parenting in this new blog. I’m thankful for my experiences. I learned a lot about myself during the process of my marriage coming undone, and later my marriage that almost unraveled, and even more from my associations from others in their own situations of “until death do us part” who have indeed parted without fatality.
While sometimes I feel really uncomfortable sharing the intimate details of my own life, I think it is important for all of us to learn, as much as we can, about what others have experienced. Sometimes divorce can be prevented, and sometimes divorce can be a relief as much as it can be devastating.
Hi Dineane - good to see another hubber at today! I think this could be a useful blog for those going thru the same issues. I have always been thankful because my parents split in the 1970s before shared custody so I didn’t have to shuttle back and forth between 2 households - it would never have worked - Dad couldnt cook even for himself never mind for anyone else!
Thanks for stopping by, Lissie! I do hope it’s helpful. I’ve been kind of amazed what some dad’s can do, given the chance. Most rise to the occassion when it means more time with their kids. But plenty of people today still think kids are better off with mom. The truth is every situation is unique and lots of different schedules “work” for lots of people.