http://marriageundone.today.com/2009/01/06/do-we-try-too-hard-or-not-hard-enough/ Observations and Advice for those Experiencing a Marriage Coming UnDone Sun, 27 Dec 2009 20:49:53 +0000 http://www.today.com/version-2.3.1 http://marriageundone.today.com/2009/01/06/do-we-try-too-hard-or-not-hard-enough/#comment-118 dineane Sun, 15 Mar 2009 20:20:11 +0000 http://marriageundone.today.com/2009/01/06/do-we-try-too-hard-or-not-hard-enough/#comment-118 LeAnn - isn't it ironic how hard it is to try not to try? But I think you do it by focusing on yourself - not what you think he wants you to change, but what things - no matter how small - will actually make you happier? What can you do every day to make you feel better about yourself? Even if those things feel a little selfish, do them! When you are your own best person, your husband will either fall in love with you all over again, or you will be strong enough to peacefully let go if the relationship doesn't improve. LeAnn - isn’t it ironic how hard it is to try not to try? But I think you do it by focusing on yourself - not what you think he wants you to change, but what things - no matter how small - will actually make you happier? What can you do every day to make you feel better about yourself? Even if those things feel a little selfish, do them! When you are your own best person, your husband will either fall in love with you all over again, or you will be strong enough to peacefully let go if the relationship doesn’t improve.

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